Nothing wrong with changing for the better. The system is brutal and takes a toll mentally and physically.

He will need to vet himself, criminal record check, submit a drug test, letter from his employer. My ex demanded supervised visits, those were quickly abandoned, before our first hearing and she offered me an ad hoc parenting schedule.

   

She absolutely needs evidence. So you had better hope that she doesn’t. If she does, and she’s not lying or making assumptions, he may not get anything but supervised visits. Breastfeeding matters depending on the age of the child. His past isn’t up for scrutiny, only his present.

   

Is it plausible to begin by taking a sample of both of your DNA and proving you are dad... mail off kits avail at Pharmacies... Also, make sure you journal everything: Who is present at he said/she said, time, date, physical visits, etc. Take pics of all messages on phone/email accounts, etc. Journal all conversations. This is authentic documentation for court at a later date. Do not disclude anything... always journal what is said and conclusion. There is a lot of info online for filing different court documents also.

   

I've been in an almost similar situation.
What I got out of it was ...
I self represented in family court.
I took my child's mom to court to ask for split custody and visitations weekly and every other weekend.
She paid for a lawyer and ended up still having to abide by the courts decision which was what I requested and which was fair ..
visitations and weekends

At the end of the day the judges have seen it all and couldn't care less about a soon to be parent's history unless he or she has a record.

   

I went through almost the exact same thing .my ex is just like the woman you mention in this post..... I self represented and filed all the paper work my self, even did my own trial, which I find out on Thursday if I win If you wanna hear my story and my advice and ask me some questions please pm me it is to much to write out I will be more then happy to help you

   

He was good enough to make a baby with and collect child support from? Yet requires supervised visits? Have her bottle her breast milk so her baby knows daddy... now that would be a super mom!