Abusive fathers

It's quite obvious that you have not read in depth what the Fathers 4 Justice Site is all about. Sadly, people like yourself are so quick to jump on a bandwagon that even hints at rights for fathers, and you go off without understanding what the concept of groups like this are about.

Had you bothered to research further, you would have come to realize this group is NOT against mothers keeping fathers away from children if they are abusers of any kind. We do NOT condone that type of behavior and agree, those fathers should not be around their children, in any way, shape or form. Please point out where you see anything on this site about wanting abusive fathers in their children's lives!!  We ARE a group who see loving fathers (and mothers) ripped out of their children's lives because of mothers (and fathers) who are selfish, insecure and narcissistic! Mothers who have the need for control over everything, especially their children and hurting their ex.

One of our sons has gone through hell the past couple of years because he unfortunately married such a woman. It was always all about her. She couldn't care less what she is doing to our to young grandchildren, as long as she 'wins'. Well please tell me how anyone wins when a child cries themselves to sleep at night, wondering why daddy (or mommy) hasn't been around to visit or take them on an outing. Why daddy can't coach their sport team....or why daddy didn't come to my dance recital like he promised he would!

Surprising as it may seem to you, there are loving, caring, compassionate fathers out there who happen to love their children just as much as mothers do, and sometimes even more. Because a mother who lies to keep their children away from a loving father, does not know what true love is. They aren't capable of it. They are afraid their children will love someone else and not give mom all the love they have. It's sick!

There will be generations of children who are growing up without the love of a father. Without a role model to teach little boys how to be good fathers themselves, without a role model to teach little girls how a future husband should treat her.

So get off your high horse and put some thought into it before you start jumping all over our group. This isn't about you. This is about loving fathers and children who are being kept apart because mom can't share and will lie and cheat to get her own way, without regard to what their children really need.

I'd much rather be a mother who can say publicly that my husband and I are friendly for the sake of the children. Our children didn't ask for a divorce. Our children are free to love us both, equally and spend time with each of us. A real mother...a loving mother. Rather than a mother who publicly says "ya, I really screwed him...I don't care if he's a great father, those kids are mine."