I could use some advice, actually I could use a lawyer who won't back down, yet, the advice I seek might be more along the lines of someone or something to convince me to comply!
I cannot reconcile within me to fill out the Statement of Finances that MEP has issued and demanded that I do and have notarized. The threat of fines and prosecution makes me only more stubborn! Are they wanting this to validate an increase to what they already have seized or to find an equitable balance that is sustainable and support their claim that they wish to "work with me"? My sense is that, they want it all.
My family support urges me to comply and they say, it won't go away until you do. I don't believe that it will regardless of what I do.
There is no custody agreement, arrangement nor order by the court concerning this. All that is court ordered is MEP. I never agreed to "her" having primary residence and day to day care, and, even when I did have a lawyer, my claims were never heard and pushed behind her claims for money, or, her lawyer would say, oh I am on holidays or, we aren't going to discuss this, etc. etc..
There has been a presumption, based on nothing other than, other than nothing I can determine anyways, that, she is the mother. This is where I balk and slide into revolt! I will have to set aside my beliefs and integrity and become someone I am not if I comply! Ouch!!!
I would love to find the, "silver bullet", to have tossed, her every claim, but, I am running out of time!
On a side note, let it be known, I do not take issue with the financial support of my children in a Shared Custody, 50/50 Equal Parenting regime. What I take offence to is the presumption that my children are better off in a one biological parent family and that they have no rights to have me equal in their daily lives! In light of this, and, as well let it be known, I have no sense that I am in arrears, I do not recognize this claim! I have said it a million times and I stand vehemently beside it... "How can it be determined what is owed until it is determined whom it is owed to?" I was playing their "game" right from the onset of Separation, providing Child Support, but, frustration set in quick with the stall and stymie by the opposition and I stopped!
As I stated previously about my integrity, I will not forsake it, so, deception is out of the question, lies and lying is what brought my, gag, wife to the ugly person that she is and I will not sleep in the gutter with her, puke!
My options are few and none are appealing! My, "get outta Dodge" duffle bag is mostly packed but I wonder if I can survive in the wild!? I might choose incarceration if I could ensure my stay be in solitary confinement, raped and beaten, I do not look forward to! Suicide... Not an Option! Compliance and the dictation of my "life" by and because of my, barf, wife's say so (not an ex yet, paperwork still proclaims we are married), absolutely abhorrent and detestable!!!
I Love my children, no doubt and have ever only filed claim to co-parent equally! I could really care less about everything else that she alone proclaims she is "entitled" to, our home and possessions, despite my unwavering belief that this is a type of theft also!
I just really have no direction, no bulldog in my corner! Mr. Stephen Harper refuses to answer my questions. Mr. Peter Goldring passed the "buck" off onto Mr. Brian Mason. Mr. Mason's office, although and while his representative sounds sympathetic and states a sort of liaison between myself, MEP and Legal Aid, who BTW, has denied me service after I fired the, stuttering, barely able to speak English, vomit, lawyer, still pronounces an impotence to do anything, another passing off of responsibility or accountability!
I was ready, willing, able and capable of sustaining a second viable home for myself and children in August of 2012, a mere two months after Separation. I am now penniless, existing in my mother's basement, I have defaulted on every financial dealing and credit, everything is in collections, yadda yadda yadda!
The noose is tightening... HELP!
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Rob Kruyt I understand your story completely. This business of a combative spouse destroys families. MEP is relentless in their abuse of you to get money. There must be limits on it but right now there is none. We have to change this whole scene and that is a marathon that will take a lot of effort from a lot of people.
Right now, for you, if there's no custody agreement why not just bring your kids in with you and force the issue. If you're broke can you get legal aid and apply for reduced child support. If the kids are with you, like likely you don't pay child support.
This is all very emasculating and very hard to manage. The trick is to be willing to go to any length and focus on what do your kids need and want.
I'm willing to talk on the phone. I don't have all the answers but I'm willing to listen and offer help.
Robert T Strickland The silver bullet is lead.
Sorry.
Anthony Devin Trondson thank you. i have already tried to force the custody issue two months after separation. i was assualted in my home while the children were Child Snatched (283.1 in the criminal code of canada), which I have very little doubt was conspired with the assist of the Edmonton city Police, arrested and the case dismissed after contradictory and biased testimony from my spouse, but, not before PTSD set in and the stress and worry of being incarcerated for 5 years took hold of my mind! I have just emailed a letter to Peter MacKay whom the office of Brian Mason suggested I speak to as well I have posted a copy here in FB-land.
Rob Kruyt Do keep writing letters. Talk to people who have been through what you're going through. You cannot be jailed for having your kids. I know what its like to have my ex harass me with unwarranted calls to police. Even after the police stated that her calls were ALL without merit a family court judge still gave her a pass on it.
Re: Fathers have been driven away because the pain of not seeing their kids regularly is too much to bare
: Follow-up by: Ryan Tamayo
